Better than words

 LOVE - A strong and deep affection for someone. 

         The fact is that feeling is constant and remains the same. The only difference which you might feel is the way to express the Love. In early years of a relationship, partners express their love through words. They say their feeling as clear as water in the sea. But the more years of your relationship or marriage go down, the less words of love come out. Fortunately, exceptions are always there. 

         Thus, never judge your partner. It happens because life runs along with the changes and we run with the life along with the acceptance those changes. Priorities change. Persons change. 

         Well, they say," pata hi nahi chala "tumhare sath itni jaldi itne saal nikal gaye". But I feel different. " mujhe to lagta hai ki na jaane kitne saalo se hum sath hain". 

           It was 2016, when I met my husband for the first time in my office, I felt something different. It was like a whispering in my ears that "YES HE IS THE ONE".  5 years of marriage have completed today and we experienced a lot of ups and downs. 

           I absolutely do not feel inferior or guilty to say that the understanding, the support, the respect and the affection are to the greater extent from his side. I am very lucky to have him as my life partner (partner in every aspects of life) who always takes a stand for me. Who always prefer a healthy communication to better understanding. We faced good times and bad times together.

           Indeed, love language for men is quite different from women. Men prefer the concept of "Better than Words". He remembers my shopping list more than me. He knows that what clothes suit me. He always corrects me in the terms of social work and house chores because he wants me to be the better version of myself. Hey, did I tell you that my husband is perfect in cooking. He calms me down. He can read my face. He takes care of my stuff. 

              You must be thinking ,"Wow !! what a perfect couple !" Wait........Perfection is just a myth. We fight too and sometimes it turns into a huge one but one of us always take a step forward and sort it out. If one partner is showing anger then its a duty of other partner that he/she should stay calm. Recently I heard somewhere that communication is NOT ALWAYS the key. Sometimes it is better to "work on the issue" first and the result will itself communicate. 

               Correspondingly, I went through a picture of an old couple with the beautiful lines, "How many times must they have forgiven each other to reach here" and I couldn't agree more.  "Forgive and Forget" are two ingredients for a one cup of happiness.

                Also, I have heard that the Opposites Attract. In our case, this idiom applies well. Our song choices are different, our upbringing are totally mismatched, our perceptions towards life are divergent, I love Animation movies and he hates them, I am always ready to take risks and he prefers safe play, I am a coffee lover while he loves Tea but still we are together. 😃 Only one thing which we both love, Travelling 🙂. 

                The song says it all :

                                        "Better Than Words, more than a feeling,

                                           I don't know how to sum it up, 

                                           'cause words are not good enough,

                                            I can't explain your love , no,

                                            It's Better Than Words."

          

       Happy anniversary to us. ❤️